It was campaign season here in the US, and like most people, my ears were so tired of the ugliness. Many of us had to be intentional about taking a break from social media because it seemed no place was safe from strife. I personally felt challenged, because I want to be a good listener and want to know how to share my thoughts in a loving way. What if we listened with genuine curiosity, our minds open to the possibility of having been wrong? Open to change... At the very least, eager to love and ready to accept that there might be more than one way to see...
A couple weeks ago, I spent an hour on Instagram Live, talking with fellow makers about how I’ve managed to raise children, live in community, and also keep creating music. Let me start by saying I am not amazing, nor is my situation unique. It’s not at all unusual to be a working parent. I think the unconventional nature of the music business makes it seem less conducive to leading a balanced life with family than other types of work.
You may feel like you need to set it aside once you start a family, because you feel a little selfish taking time to make art, especially if it’s not generating much or any income for the family. Or you may just be so freaking tired all the time that you can’t fathom having the brain power to make something good.
Well, let me encourage you if I can? I have five kids who are now 11 and up. I didn’t start working in music as a vocation until my firstborn was three-years-old. I was SO tired for a LONG time.
I could talk for dayyyyys about all of this, but I have songs to write! So I’ve tried to recall + summarize the tips I shared in our Live chat.